DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? (part 3)

But the answer to
this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't
fall in love with someone else. You could. And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in
the same situation a few years later. Because (
listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO
SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING
THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE
THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING
love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll
NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find "
LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and
day out. That's why we have the
______expression " the labor of love." Because it
takes time, effort, and energy. And most
importantly, it Takes WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make
no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do ( with or
without your spouse ) to succeed with your
marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the
universe ( such as gravity), there are also laws
for relationships. Just as the right diet and
exercise Program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make
your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results
are predictable...You can " make" love. Love in
marriage is indeed a “decision"... Not just a
feeling.” Being happy doesnt mean everything is
okay, it only means you've decided to see
beyond imperfections whatever happens.."